Bellefontaine Cemetery, St. Louis, Missouri
There is a story about “the girl in the shadow box”. It is an ancient story told and re-told of unrequited love that is also told about this statue. According to local St. Louis lore, the Herman Luyties’ (1871-1921) Monument in the famed Bellefontaine Cemetery displays the bodacious beauty sculpted marble likeness of an Italian model. As the story goes, Herman met her around the turn of the 20th Century while he was touring Italy.
Luyties was a highly successful St. Louis businessman who toured Europe. While there, he fell in love with the voluptuous Italian and asked for her hand in marriage. She declined. He left the country broken hearted and without the love of his life.
But, before Luyties left Italy he commissioned a sculptor to replicate his true love in stone. The statue that now adorns his grave, first graced the entryway of his home–a constant reminder of unrequited love. The sculpture, weighing several tons, was moved from his home to the cemetery. When the sculpture started to weather, Luyties had the monument front glassed in which is how the monument gained the moniker, “the girl in the shadow box.”
The image of the woman at the center of this story can also be found in the Green-Wood Cemetery at Brooklyn, New York, in the form of an angel–the hair, that body, even the drapery falls in the same way. The statue that is strikingly similar marks the graves of John Campbell Maben (1837-1924) and Virginia Maben (died 1912) which raises the question about the Luyties story from St. Louis—was she real? Or is this figure the 1920s archetype graveyard female? Head tilted downward in sorrow, bobbed hair with a headband, and a pose of false modesty partially covering up her full body.
The John and Virginia Maben Monument in the Green-Wood Cemetery at Brooklyn, New York
Trinity Churchyard Cemetery, New York, new York
As I walked through the Hartsdale Canine Cemetery at Hartsdale, New York, I noticed so many similarities between the gravestones of humans and animals. Of course, the gravestones for the dogs and cats are chosen by those humans that loved them, so it is only natural that there would be so much sameness in terms of the stone shapes, the materials for the gravestones, even some of the symbolism, but I also noticed what I believe are some fundamental differences in symbolism.
For instance, bones carved into a gravestone for a human in the 18th Century has a completely different meaning than the bone found on the gravestone for one of our four-legged friends! In the former, it is a symbol if decay and rot. It is to remind us that our bodies are temporary and that death is always with us, a constant creepy companion that will meet up with us eventually.
The bone, however, found on the gravestone of a dog, like Isabella in the photo below, is a reminder of what a dog loves—to gnaw on a bone, to fetch a bone. It is a joyful item and a reminder of a playful puppy with something yummy!
A world of difference in perspective! One is all about Heaven and one isn’t.
Hartsdale Canine Cemetery, Hartsdale, New York
Dogs have been kept as pets since a pharaoh ruled Egypt, where they were kept in mud brick kennels. Their digs over the years evolved and, for the most part, our dogs either live inside our homes with us, or outside in a small pitch-roofed building resembling a tiny house. The memorial for Buster and Queenie in the Hartsdale Canine Cemetery at Hartsdale, New York, mimics the typical modern dog house.
Hartsdale Canine Cemetery, Hartsdale, New York
Mt. Auburn Cemetery, Cambridge, Massachusetts
When I write about our furry family members, I am not referring to those males in the family with hair on their backs, but instead, our little four-legged family members—our dogs and cats. As it turns out, with the exception of how much room is between gravestones, those who bury their pets choose much the same symbolism and gravestone choices as we do with our two-legged family members.
In the example above, the empty bassinet, represents the emptiness that is felt by the loss of the dogs buried underneath. It is much like the empty bassinet gravestone that marks the intricately-carved white marble gravestone of Mary Wigglesworth, who died just shy of her first birthday, her inscription on the pillow. The symbolism is obvious. The marker is clearly for a child but also represents the emptiness and sadness from the loss.
Many gravestones also display a photo on the face of the gravestone. That is common in the Hartsdale Canine Cemetery in Hartsdale, New York, too. The gravestone above displays a photo of a cat named, the Fifth Daisy, while the gravestone below displays the photo of 34-year old Anna Maddalena.
Mt. Olivet, Red Bank, New Jersey
Our puppy, Doodle
Dogs have long been considered man’s best friend! In fact, way back in 1821, the New York Literary Journal ran a poem that extolled just that. According to the latest pet ownership statistics from 2012, 36.5% of American households (43,346,000) own an average of 1.6 dogs. That adds up to a whopping 69,926,000 dogs living with families in the United States. (Incidentally, fewer households own cats, but each of those households own more—2.1 per household for a total of 74,059,000 cats.) Given that love for our dogs, it is no wonder that some dog owners want to bury their pets.
In 1896, Veterinarian Dr. Samuel Johnson offered to let his friend bury his beloved dog in his apple orchard. Today more than 70,000 pets are buried in what is now the Hartsdale Canine Cemetery, Hartsdale, New York, which became the first and oldest pet cemetery in the United States and perhaps the world.
Fair View Cemetery, Red Bank, New Jersey
The biggest cemetery in Red Bank, New Jersey, is named Fair View which strikes me as funny. The name chosen is damning by faint praise—the view isn’t bad, it isn’t great, it is just “fair”. But what’s in a name? The cemetery is beautiful, set in a neighborhood on gently rolling hills and landscaped in the tradition of some of the first rural cemeteries.
At any rate, Fair View Cemetery has several mausoleums within its gates, including the the Proal Family Mausoleum. The mausoleum is fairly modest, built in a rustic rough-hewn style. The exceptional feature of the crypt is the stained glass window on the back wall. Adorning the window in shimmering blues, purples, greens, and cocoa is a glass angel depicted holding a crown, as if it is going to be offered to a recently arrived soul to Heaven.
The crown is a symbol of glory and reward and victory over death. The reward comes after life and the hard-fought battle on Earth against the wages of sin and the temptations of the flesh. The reward awaits in Heaven where the victor will receive a crown of victory. The crown also represents the sovereign authority of the Lord.
In the angels other hand, the angel holds a palm leaf. This symbol is most closely associated with Easter, and Jesus’ spiritual victory over death. The palm frond is also a symbol of eternal peace.
Glendale Cemetery, Akron, Ohio
On the massive bronze doors of the Bertram Work Neo-Classical Mausoleum in the Glendale Cemetery, at Akron, Ohio, are several repeating images, one of which is the Ouroboros. The Ouroboros is an ancient symbol depicting a snake eating its tail. The word, Ouroboros, is Greek—oura meaning tail; vora meaning eating, and ophis meaning serpent or snake. In ancient Egypt, the Ouroboros represented the daily passage of the sun. The snake eating its tail in cemetery symbolism represents the cycle of life—birth and death—and eternity.